Natasha Taffet
Marriage
& Family Therapis
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232 South 4th St.
Philadelphia, PA. 19106


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©2010 Natasha Taffet
232 South 4th St.
Philadelphia, PA. 19106
(P) 215-815-1279




The Problem

Are you fighting, sulking, avoiding each other? Are you having disagreements about sex, money, housework, having children, raising children, moving, changing jobs? Are you feeling lonely, unloved, rejected, put down, bullied, or henpecked? Are you bored? Are you under pressure from family, health, work, or financial issues? Are you struggling to cope with a major life challenge involving children, illness, job loss, legal action, retirement, or something else? Are you stressed out and “taking it out” on each other instead of constructively and collaboratively dealing with your challenge?


With your Partner or Alone, you’ll Learn How to:

• Let go of conflict, open up, and live fully in the present
• Use mindfulness to increase intimacy, connection, and understanding
• Resolve painful conflicts and reconcile long-standing differences
• Act on your values to build a rich and meaningful relationship



It Takes Two to Tango


I can teach you how to influence your partner via effective negotiation, communication, assertiveness, and conflict resolution skills.

I will teach you how to create rituals and develop activities to cultivate affection, warmth, fun, sensuality, intimacy in your relationship.

I will show you how to develop insight into the differences between you and your partner, and how they have arisen as a result of your different backgrounds.

I can show you how to stop acting in ways that make your relationship worse.

I can show you how to clarify and act on your values and to be more like the partner you ideally want to be.

I can teach you how to accept what is out of your control in your relationship.

I can show you how to effectively handle the painful feelings and stressful thoughts that inevitably occur in every relationship.


You are Both Hurting


Your partner may not reveal his pain to you; he may just get angry or storm out of the house, or quietly switch on the TV and start drinking, but deep inside he hurts just like you. Your partner may refuse to talk to you, she may criticize you in scathing tones, or go out on the town with her friends, but deep inside, she hurts just like you. It is so important to recognize and remember this. We tend to get so caught up in our own suffering that we can easily forget our partner is in the same boat.


Everyone’s a Control Freak


Wouldn’t it be great if your partner would do what you want? If he could only read your mind, know what you wanted, and act as you wished, life would be so much easier, wouldn’t it? I like to ask my clients, “If I had a magic wand here, and I could wave it over your partner to magically transform him, what would you want to change? There is never a shortage of answers to this question.

The truth is we’re all control freaks at heart; we all like to get what we want. With each generation, our minds become more and more sophisticated, and our societies became more and more advanced- until we are where we are today. We now have computers, spaceships, refrigerators, cell phones, televisions, air-conditioning, cars, planes, heart transplants, and microwave ovens. Our incredible capacity to shape and transform our environment has created a powerful illusion of control. So much so that in this day and age, we not only have a strong drive to get what we want, we also have the expectation that we should receive it.

I will help each of you see how each are trying to control the other which is resulting in conflict in your relationship. I can show you how to instead of try to control your partner, learn how to work with your partner as they are, the person you fell in love with.



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